“I really fell for this guy. He was wonderful for the first three months, but then he changed and became very controlling. He didn’t allow me to talk with friends freely, and would throw and break things if I did. He told me I was a bitch, he spat on me and hit me. On one occasion I was bedridden for two days from this and made excuses to people about how I was injured. He pulled a knife and stabbed my bedding, threatened me with objects, drove the car at high speeds with me in it – and always, always it was my fault. I began to believe that it was my fault and felt like I was in this rollercoaster that I couldn’t get off. I spent every day crying until finally enough was enough and I left. Still he came and begged me to give him another go and I did, but it wasn’t my choice to be in the relationship.
“He pulled a knife and stabbed my bedding, threatened me with objects, drove the car at high speeds with me in it – and always, always it was my fault.”
The reason I stayed so long was because each morning I would get up and hope he would treat me better this day – but it never happened. Finally, after continual harassment I got a restraining order against him. My friends and family helped me a lot and supported me through the process. I feel very lucky that I managed to get out of the web. It was my personal nightmare – one that I will never be in again.”